It’s Friday – Enjoy your weekend! But first….
It’s Friday – Enjoy your weekend! But first….
4 Tips on Finding Your Path and Purpose in Life
I remember an adult once telling me when I was young that I needed to try different things in order to figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up. I remember thinking, “How could I possibly just fall into something I love by chance? Into something I’m meant to become? Is it perhaps a bit more predestined than that?”
I’m certain it’s normal to search for meaning and purpose. It is, after all, our nature as human beings. I was reminded this morning of an uber-successful millennial who struck it rich with a tech startup and become an instant billionaire, only to reach age 30 and realize no one cared about him and he was doing something that left him empty. The point is that everyone wants perfection. Everyone wants financial stability. Everyone wants productivity and some degree of a routine. Everyone wants certainty. Everyone wants to give love and to be loved. The reality is that these things just don’t exist because the perfect version of yourself is constantly changing as you learn and grow! As you expand, your goals expand with you.
Isn’t the search, perhaps, less about attaining the perfect life and more about finding the perfect path?
The Perfection Competition
As you browse through Facebook and Instagram you will see updates and posts of what other people are doing and accomplishing. For me, this has led at times to feelings of jealousy or thoughts that perhaps I’m not accomplishing enough or getting enough out of life. I’ve realized that, when I set concrete goals for myself that are followed-up by smaller goals that help me achieve the big ones, I become more confident. I feel more productive. I feel like I’m on the right path for me. All of a sudden, I can’t identify as much with someone else’s’ perfect life and I feel more fulfilled with my own. So, I’ll ask you, what are your goals for yourself?
Learn the Signs of Misdirection
Feeling uncertain about your life, your goals, or your purpose is all normal. But what’s not normal is to feel uncertain every minute of every day. If that’s going on, I can say with complete certainty you’re not on the right path. Red flags and alarm bells should be going off all over the place for you right now! Instead, try to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings so you can be prepared to take action. Begin briefly journaling those feelings along with your ideas for what may be causing them. What is the root of it all?
Ask for Help
I know for a fact that I am my own worst enemy. But I have to stop and remind myself that, many times, I’m doing better than I think I am. Thankfully, in my case, I have two trusted people who remind me of that. I can be open and honest with them and they will give me a candid opinion of what I should consider changing. Everyone needs someone in their life that won’t just tell them what they want to hear. Do you have someone like this?
Purpose is Divine
I am a Christian and it’s taken me 33 years to realize that, when I focus on anything other than my faith and God’s will for my life, I grow unhappy, worried and frustrated. We all have talents. We all have a reason for being here. So instead of trying to figure it out for yourself, try praying about it. Now that I finally feel like I know what path I’m on, I pray daily that God will give me eyes to see Him, ears to hear Him, a hunger to do His will in my life, and that He will help me with each step along my path. For me, He has been faithful and helped me realize that I can’t do this alone. He has called me to be greater and, because of this, he has blessed me with purpose and passion! So are you praying regularly for purpose?
They say the truth hurts. It’s a hard pill to swallow – like the time my two-year-old recently pointed out that she’s excited to see I’m going to have another baby. “No, honey. No baby in this belly,” and thanks for pointing out that I’m obviously fat!
But don’t you think that cutting out the crap and getting to the meat and potatoes of this life is really all that’s important? Think about it. Maybe I do need some exercise. Maybe I do need to hear something that makes me cringe. After all, the friend who will tell us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear, is the best friend of all.
So here’s the meat and potatoes – after 13+ years as a financial advisor, I’m still blown away by the people who just don’t get it. The story is almost always the same…it’s a couple who has decent income, they don’t live extravagantly, one’s a spender and one’s decent with money, they have some debt, are underfunded for retirement and college savings, and they don’t understand that it won’t just all come together perfectly. The hard truth:
None of these people are dumb. They’re just living the way society tells us we all should live. It’s peer pressure at its’ core and it’s contagious!
Have you ever seriously thought about what it would be like to have zero debt? How much would it cost you to live? What if all you had to pay for were utilities, clothes, and food? Would you have to save as much for retirement? Would you have to work as many hours as you do now?
Did you know it’s entirely possible to pay off your mortgage in 5 years? What about your car payment? Wouldn’t it be easier to not have one and pay for every car in the future with cash? With proper planning in place, these are all realistic examples of goals that can be accomplished without being rich.
Food (meat and potatoes) for thought…
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Ok, here’s the thing. We all have something we really want. We think about it often, it’s in the back of our minds every single day in some way or another and it’s very personal to us. Getting fit and healthy perhaps? A new business endeavor? Organizing your life? Spending less and saving more? Enjoying more time with friends and family? Simply put, one of two things have happened – we’ve either made a conscience choice not to pursue our goal or we’ve likely failed before at trying to achieve it.
If you’re contemplating a New Year’s Resolution for 2016, you should know that scientific research tells us you have a 92% chance of failure*. So what are the winning 8% doing successfully? They’re throwing glitter at the new year and kicking adversity in the face! Here’s how:
I’d love to share more ideas with you on living a life on the north side of average! Subscribe and share today! Happy New Year to you!
*John Norcross, University of Scranton, 1985
Have you ever been on the cusp of doing something you never thought you could do? Perhaps as you read these words you feel like you are destined for something greater? Maybe you’ve dreamed a dream and are longing to feel it, see it, and taste it? Does the very thought of it seem so exciting you can actually smell it? If so, all that’s standing between you and your dream is FOCUS…
In today’s society, focusing isn’t easy. I’m willing to bet that right this very moment you are battling one or more distractions. Look around you. Think about your day. Can you name more than one thing that bothers you? So how on earth do we reach our goals when we’re overwhelmed with everything and everyone that pulls us in different directions? I’ll tell you how.
This part is important and it hit me square in the face when I first heard it: “devoting a little of yourself to everything means committing a great deal of yourself to nothing,” says author Andy Stanley. Think about that. Re-read it: “devoting a little of yourself to everything means committing a great deal of yourself to nothing.”
Could this be why you aren’t living your dream? Something’s gotta give…so what is it?
In business and in life, balance is one of the hardest things to achieve. We are being pulled in different directions at any second of the day. Whether it’s keeping up with e-mails, marketing ourselves, handling customer phone calls, keeping the books up-to-date, prospecting, managing employees, tracking and analyzing results, ensuring quality control of our products or services, planning for future growth, managing risk, and the list goes on and on and on, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed! Maybe you feel that way right now?!?
If you’ve been blessed with a great spouse, you understand how having someone to balance you can be the secret to holding it all together. If not, you get that failure is not an option because who else would pick up the pieces if you drop the ball? Owning a company isn’t really that different if you think about it. Going solo can mean tremendous pressure. Having the right partner, however, can be the key to incredible success!
Take my financial advisory practice for instance – my business partner, Trent, balances me in every area I need it. Not only do Trent and I share in the workload, we also get to bounce ideas off of each other. If we have an issue, we can rely on each other to work through it. If we have an idea, we serve as each other’s filter and can easily play devil’s advocate to ensure an idea actually makes sense. When we are ready to run, it’s more like a relay than a sprint with a cheerleader always on the sidelines. In a world where you can’t be everything to everyone, we are free to specialize and come together to provide a deeper and more well-rounded level of expertise and service.
Partnerships do take work, but they can be extremely effective in balancing your business, your life, or your projects. Stick around and we’ll explore some more tips on how Trent and I have achieved an incredible partnership, and I’ll also share how my husband, Rob, and I work together in his window treatment business in the same way. But I’m curious…what questions do you have about partnerships that you’d like us to explore first?
One of the greatest gifts we’ve been given is the ability to affect other people and inspire with our language. In the beginning of all creation God spoke and said “Let their be light, and there was light” (Genesis 1:3). God’s words created light and, hence, sight for us all!
In my career, I’ve worked with those who couldn’t see how they could possibly become successful or were blind to how they could take their lives or businesses to another level. My prayer is that my words and the gifts God has instilled in me will be a light to your life. My mission is to help inspire others to become extraordinary in all that they do!
I’m a mother, a wife, and an owner of multiple businesses. I’ve had incredible success and have also made many mistakes personally and professionally in my 33 years of life. There’s a good chance I’ve been where you are today! If you’re ready, I want to help you avoid the mistakes I’ve made and achieve success much faster than I have. Please join me on my life’s journey to the north side of average…